Darius Foroux, an entrepreneur and author of several life books notes that we are always feeling so busy that time flies with the blink of an eye. Every day, people immerse themselves in their work, friends, relationships, meetings, dating, going out… “Are you happy to be so busy? I bet the answer is NO. This made me wonder: “Is it necessary to live in such a busy world?”
- You forgot your wife’s birthday: “I’m so sorry, but you know how busy I am, right? I’ll make it up to you.”
- You haven’t called your mother in three months. “Mum, I’m sooo busy.”
- You didn’t go to the gym. “I’m too busy at work to work out.”
- What is the last book you read? “Oh! I don’t even remember when I last read a book.”
- And the WORST: “I’m too busy to work on the stuff that makes me happy.” That can be your music, travel, business, model trains, or whatever actually makes YOU happy!
Every time you say you’re too busy, you’re actually saying that you can’t prioritise your own life.
“To me, ‘busy’ implies that the person has no control of their life.”
How long since you called your old friends? 1 year, 2 years, 10 years or perhaps you can’t even remember who they are or what their name is. And please, stop repeating the familiar sentence “I’m too busy to …”
I was too busy to give my friend a call. Come on: How on earth can you be too busy to give your friend a call? That’s nonsense!
If Jeff Bezos has time to go to the gym and eat breakfast with his wife every day;
If Sheryl Sandberg always went home before 5 pm to cook dinner and go to bed at 10 pm on the same day;
If Bill Gates maintains the habit of reading 50 books a year (equivalent to one book per week);
Believe me, you have enough time to do everything. Because being the CEO of the world’s most developed businesses is certainly heavy enough to be called busy.
“Business people” doesn’t mean “Busy people!”
Busy does not equal success.
Most people identify being busy with being successful. But unlike 95% of the people I know, I think being busy is a bad thing.
When you meet people, they often want to show you that they have busy lives. “A full calendar must mean that I’m doing SOMETHING right, right?”
The truth is: If you’re busy, you don’t live at all. You just exist.
Derek Sivers, author of Anything You Want, and one of my favorite thinkers, says:
“To me, ‘busy’ implies that the person is out of control of their life.”
“But if I’m not busy, what the hell should I do?”
Slow down there. Take a step back. And think about which things in your life are just ‘busy work’ and not meaningful: future, family, friends, knowledge,..or look at your old photos and try to remember names of your friends and some good memories. Then you might realise that your ‘busy’ work did not have any meaning.
On Mondays, colleagues often ask each other their favorite questions: “What did you do on the weekend?”
You don’t have to do things so you can tell others about it. If people ask me, this is what I say: “NOTHING.”
Or, I say: “I wrote, went to the gym, and slept.”
And they look at me like: “That’s all?”
What? I’m not cool if I didn’t travel the world, had dinner with aboriginals, and jumped out of a jumbo jet on the way back?
Want to grab a coffee? Want to go for dinner? Want to write an article for money? Want to work for us? Want to do this, or that?
No, not now — I don’t want to be busy.
When you’re busy, time moves fast. And I want time to move SLOWLY.
You know that feeling? Some days seem like forever, and years later, you still remember how you felt that day. You should feel like that almost every day.
All you have to do is slow down, stop being busy, don’t forget about important things, and live a conscious life.
It’s not that difficult, right? You can start now.